Call me biased, but when I think of a mom who makes it work (and made it work), I think of my own mother. Of course, as a child growing up, I was more concerned about the lack of donuts I wasn’t eating than all of the time, sweat, and love my mom put into making sure she was a mother for us 8 children AND making all the ends meet. It takes being a mother myself to really appreciate what she did as a mom, and now as a grandma!
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I Started Out as a Child
How many kids/grandkids?
I “grew up” with 8 (4 boys and 4 girls) fun, amazing, and crazy kids who have turned in to some pretty fun, amazing and crazy adults. I am blessed to have 10 children who call me “Grandma!”
Besides being a mother, what else consumes/consumed your time?
I was a SAHM when my children were younger. However, since we weren’t independently wealthy, I worked from home. I was a state licensed day care provider, taught preschool, painted rugs, took in ironing (yes, people really do have their clothes ironed) delivered newspapers, sewed, did phone surveys, stuffed envelopes and collated books. None of them brought in an enormous amount of money, but every little bit helped.
I now work at an elementary school in Special Ed and I really enjoy my job!
What is/was the biggest challenge you’re faced with right now?
When the kids were younger, it was hard to work inside the home and keep everyone happy. Someone would be upset because the daycare kids wiped boogers on the wall by their bed. (maybe I should have invested in kleenex) At times, because of all the bodies in the house, someone would feel ignored or picked on. I never bought in to that! Another challenge was dealing with my kids who hated my singing! So what if I made up the song on the spur of the moment, and can’t carry a tune? It was all done out of love.
Even though my kids are now grown and almost all of them are out of the house, I still have many obligations with my family. I feel bad when I can’t take the time to help a daughter with her kids when she goes to school or work.
I can’t always make it to a grandchild’s school program and I’d like to be able to do that. Maybe now would be a good time to be independently wealthy.
With so much demanded of you, how do you “Make it Work”?
I am only one person and can only do so much. I prioritize – then do what feels best!
If you had a full day to yourself, free of daily responsibilities, what would you spend it doing? Where?
I’d probably spend it reading, going to a nice restaurant or drag racing.
What would be your advice to other mothers trying to “Make It Work”?
A sense of humor and a stash of chocolate are key elements to making it work. You need to remember to enjoy each moment, each stage of life, and each challenge that comes along because, believe me, the time goes by too fast!